Do you want kids?

afro-elf · 08-12-2002, 02:58 AM

For me it is a resounding NO. Only once in my life did I ever want them and that short period is dead.

The Ringbearer · 08-12-2002, 05:25 AM

What happened to make you change your mind?

My line of thinking is "the more the merrier"! I'm the oldest of 5 kids, and although it can be a bit loud sometimes

, I wouldn't have it any other way. I would love for my hopefully-to-be children to experience this too! Think about it:

1. If you get up to 7 you can have your own Quidditch team! JK....

2. You won't be short on helping hands.

3. Tons of kids will run to greet you when you get home from work, errands etc....

4. More love to go around!

5. What if YOUR parents had decided that they didn't want kids, hmmmmm?

Sween · 08-12-2002, 05:58 AM

i wanna have 4 kids eventually. I want 2 boys and 2 girls. I want this cos i just have a sister and i know she wished she had a sister and i wish i had a brother. i think people that are from big families are more rounded people

BeardofPants · 08-12-2002, 07:20 AM

Not particularly. Can't stand the little tykes.

Lizra · 08-12-2002, 09:39 AM

I always wanted a child. I didn't have a wonderful (fun, warm, loving) family experience myself, but still, never considered being childless. I was the youngest,and had no young cousins, so I had no idea what babies were about. I certainly was curious about the pregnancy thing! I loved being pregnant, the second time was more thrilling than the first. To know you are growing a child inside your body, that will come out and totally redefine you and your husband's world is pretty exciting stuff!!! Feeling your baby moving inside you is too cool.

Children are an incredible hassle!!, but the love expansion is too good to pass. I need to learn to love this way. Of course, there's pain too, but I'll handle it.

afro-elf · 08-12-2002, 09:40 AM

2. You won't be short on helping hands.

There are tons of orphans and others who want them.

3. Tons of kids will run to greet you when you get home from work, errands etc....

Ever think that I like solitude

4. More love to go around!

Don't need kids for that.

5. What if YOUR parents had decided that they didn't want kids, hmmmmm?

I wouldn't be here. But, that is non-sequitor. That is no logical reason to have them.

Rand · 08-12-2002, 09:47 AM

Ummmmmmm.... I'm very sorry if this seems rude but why start this topic if all you are going to do is shoot down what the other people say?

Spock · 08-12-2002, 10:07 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Rand
Ummmmmmm.... I'm very sorry if this seems rude but why start this topic if all you are going to do is shoot down what the other people say?

Unfortunately you are 100% correct about this observation.

That's why some people come and go randomly. We can't take the constant tension.

Artanis · 08-12-2002, 10:13 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Lizra
To know you are growing a child inside your body, that will come out and totally redefine you and your husband's world is pretty exciting stuff!!! Feeling your baby moving inside you is too cool.

Agreed! I've got 3 kids and giving birth is painful and hard work but it's worth every second of it. I consider myself very lucky having healthy children and I love them more than I can say in words.

I'm just curious, what is the average number of children in a family where you live? In Norway it's 2.1.

AngusThermopile · 08-12-2002, 12:07 PM

Well i never had any definite oppinion on the matter, though i allways assumed that one dayin the right circumstances i would want a kid/kids. However after many hours looking after my brothers young ones i have revised this ti a definte no.

We'll see.....

Lizra · 08-12-2002, 12:32 PM

I think it's about the same, Artanis, but that's just speculation on my part! Hi Angus! I suppose your wife will sway you "yea or nay"

Either way, a good life can be had.

Elvet · 08-12-2002, 12:52 PM

I never wanted children and I have never regretted that decision.
However, I think that over time, many things influence your feelings on this. In otherwords, how you feel now could easily change depending on partners and circumstances. Perhaps a better question would be would you voluntarily become permenantly infertile. That may put a different spin on it.

Starr Polish · 08-12-2002, 12:55 PM

I grew up around small children, and I still am! I'm the youngest of two, biologically, but the second oldest of four in a joined family. I have a gigantic family, on all three sides, and there are always babies around. I'm considered the responsible one who isn't quite old enough to be with the adults (I'm sixteen! Bah), and I can usually get stuck watching them sometimes, but for the most part I don't mind.

Yes, I want kids, but not right away. I think I want to have only one child, but we'll see. I believe kids are worth everything, but I'm not willing to give up my childhood quite yet.

I know quite a bit about kids and such, having to be around them all the time, though I'm still a little worried about very small babies.

afro-elf · 08-12-2002, 01:41 PM

Rand

Quote:

Ummmmmmm.... I'm very sorry if this seems rude but why start this topic if all you are going to do is shoot down what the other people say?

Spock

Quote:

We can't take the constant tension

How does responding to a response equate shooting someone down or causing tension.

I did not flame the ring bearer in anyway. Now, if I said that someone was an acerebral embodiment of flatulence for wanting kids then I would agree.

To disgree is not to be rude.

afro-elf · 08-12-2002, 01:44 PM

Quote:

What happened to make you change your mind?

In which direction? The VERY short time I wanted them or back to my normal mode?

***azalea*** · 08-12-2002, 03:18 PM

I have two kids, and I've decided I don't want any.

I'M KIDDING!

I love having kids and have always wanted kids. I agree with the more the merrier philosophy (although the merrier for whom then becaomes a question

).

I think people should wait to make the decision (to get pregnant) until they are finished with college and are married (although I know people who had them at 19 or 20 and are happy, I think it is good to experience life as an adult for a while before becoming a parent).
I think people should wait to decide "how many" until they've had one.

(Just wait till you've had one, then you'll know why.)
I think people who don't think they want children should wait until they are 30 to get permenantly "fixed," because there is a lot of growth that happens between 20 and 30, and you may decide you want them later. This has happened to a lot of people. If you're 45 and decide you want them, it may be too late (if you're a woman)!

BeardofPants · 08-12-2002, 05:13 PM

Well I come from a rocky home life of sorts, and I don't tend to develop attachments very easily because of it, and there's no way that I want to put any children through what I went through, and I'm too scared I'd turn into my mother. Plus, I don't think I have any particular urges to have kids. Some people don't, I guess. What I AM sick of, is being patronised by other women (and men) saying that OF COURSE I'LL WANT KIDS, EVERYONE WANTS KIDS, etc, etc. I know I'm still young, but still... I've got some pretty good reasons to no have them.

Liviaine · 08-12-2002, 05:41 PM

Yes, except for the fact of doubt when I get mad. I have a temper because my parents get mad at me every once in a while. I don't want to hurt anyone, but I love to watch kids and teach swimming lessons, so yes. I want them.

Eruviel Greenleaf · 08-12-2002, 06:26 PM

I very certainly do not want kids. First, there's too many kids in the world as is and if I ever lose my mind and decide I do want kids after all (which is not going to happen) I would adopt a kid instead of having my own. Also, I think I would make a terrible mother. I have an awful temper and no patience, and I like having my own time and space, and I would end up resenting any hypothetical children for taking up my time and space, etc. And because I can't stand children.

It really bugs me when people say stuff like 'oh, you'll change your mind someday' and all that. It's really annoying.

Faramir · 08-12-2002, 06:36 PM

I would like to have kids. When your old, you'll have people to visit you, and enjoy seeing your kids have kids, and watch with nasty joy as you see them going through the hard parts of parenthood. "All mothers put a curse on their children, they say to their children, "I hope your kids are just like you!" And the curse works!"-Bill Cosby For all you people who don't want to habve kids, that's fine.

08-12-2002, 02:58 AM	#1
afro-elf Hoplite Nomad Join Date: Sep 2001 Posts: 3,931	Do you want kids? For me it is a resounding NO. Only once in my life did I ever want them and that short period is dead. __________________ About Eowyn, Does anyone know what her alias Dernhelm means? She was kown as dernhelm because of her exclaimation when she realized that the rider's headgear was heavy and obscured her sight. 'Dern Helm" Culled from Entmoot From Kirinski 57 and Wayfarer. Last edited by afro-elf : 08-12-2002 at 09:37 AM.

08-12-2002, 05:25 AM	#2
The Ringbearer Elven Warrior Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: Crickhollow in the summer, and Rivendell in the winter Posts: 397	What happened to make you change your mind? My line of thinking is "the more the merrier"! I'm the oldest of 5 kids, and although it can be a bit loud sometimes , I wouldn't have it any other way. I would love for my hopefully-to-be children to experience this too! Think about it: 1. If you get up to 7 you can have your own Quidditch team! JK.... 2. You won't be short on helping hands. 3. Tons of kids will run to greet you when you get home from work, errands etc.... 4. More love to go around! 5. What if YOUR parents had decided that they didn't want kids, hmmmmm? __________________ 'Go away, and never come back!!' '......what?' 'But you're a part of this world! Aren't you?' Frodo lives!

08-12-2002, 05:58 AM	#3
Sween im quite stupid Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Cockermouth Posts: 2,058	i wanna have 4 kids eventually. I want 2 boys and 2 girls. I want this cos i just have a sister and i know she wished she had a sister and i wish i had a brother. i think people that are from big families are more rounded people __________________ Yeah god hes ok but i would rather be judged by a sheep than that idiot

08-12-2002, 07:20 AM	#4
BeardofPants the Shrike Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: San Francisco, CA <3 Posts: 10,647	Not particularly. Can't stand the little tykes. __________________ "Binary solo! 0000001! 00000011! 0000001! 00000011!" ~ The Humans are Dead, Flight of the Conchords

08-12-2002, 09:39 AM	#5
Lizra Domesticated Swing Babe Join Date: May 2002 Location: Reality Posts: 5,340	I always wanted a child. I didn't have a wonderful (fun, warm, loving) family experience myself, but still, never considered being childless. I was the youngest,and had no young cousins, so I had no idea what babies were about. I certainly was curious about the pregnancy thing! I loved being pregnant, the second time was more thrilling than the first. To know you are growing a child inside your body, that will come out and totally redefine you and your husband's world is pretty exciting stuff!!! Feeling your baby moving inside you is too cool. Children are an incredible hassle!!, but the love expansion is too good to pass. I need to learn to love this way. Of course, there's pain too, but I'll handle it. Last edited by Lizra : 08-12-2002 at 12:35 PM.

08-12-2002, 09:40 AM	#6
afro-elf Hoplite Nomad Join Date: Sep 2001 Posts: 3,931	2. You won't be short on helping hands. There are tons of orphans and others who want them. 3. Tons of kids will run to greet you when you get home from work, errands etc.... Ever think that I like solitude 4. More love to go around! Don't need kids for that. 5. What if YOUR parents had decided that they didn't want kids, hmmmmm? I wouldn't be here. But, that is non-sequitor. That is no logical reason to have them. __________________ About Eowyn, Does anyone know what her alias Dernhelm means? She was kown as dernhelm because of her exclaimation when she realized that the rider's headgear was heavy and obscured her sight. 'Dern Helm" Culled from Entmoot From Kirinski 57 and Wayfarer.

08-12-2002, 09:47 AM	#7
Rand Hobbit Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: I port around from day to day. Who knows where I will be now? Posts: 16	Ummmmmmm.... I'm very sorry if this seems rude but why start this topic if all you are going to do is shoot down what the other people say? __________________ The Wheel of Time turns, and Ages come and pass, leaving memories that become legend. Legend fades to myth, and even myth is long forgotten when the Age that gave it birth comes again. In one Age, called the Third Age by some, an Age yet to come, and Age long past, a wind rose in the Mountains of Mist. The wind was not the beginning. There are neather beginnings nor endings to the turning of the Wheel of Time. But it was a beginning...

08-12-2002, 12:07 PM	#10
AngusThermopile Sapling Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Scotland Posts: 12	Well i never had any definite oppinion on the matter, though i allways assumed that one dayin the right circumstances i would want a kid/kids. However after many hours looking after my brothers young ones i have revised this ti a definte no. We'll see..... __________________ http://www.jasidog.com

08-12-2002, 12:32 PM	#11
Lizra Domesticated Swing Babe Join Date: May 2002 Location: Reality Posts: 5,340	I think it's about the same, Artanis, but that's just speculation on my part! Hi Angus! I suppose your wife will sway you "yea or nay" Either way, a good life can be had.

08-12-2002, 12:52 PM	#12
Elvet Elven Warrior Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Orillia, Ontario Posts: 221	I never wanted children and I have never regretted that decision. However, I think that over time, many things influence your feelings on this. In otherwords, how you feel now could easily change depending on partners and circumstances. Perhaps a better question would be would you voluntarily become permenantly infertile. That may put a different spin on it. __________________ "But do not despise the lore that has come down from distant years; for oft it may chance that old wives keep in memory word of things that once were needful for the wise to know."

08-12-2002, 12:55 PM	#13
Starr Polish Elf Lord Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Slow down and I sail on the river, slow down and I walk to the hill Posts: 2,389	I grew up around small children, and I still am! I'm the youngest of two, biologically, but the second oldest of four in a joined family. I have a gigantic family, on all three sides, and there are always babies around. I'm considered the responsible one who isn't quite old enough to be with the adults (I'm sixteen! Bah), and I can usually get stuck watching them sometimes, but for the most part I don't mind. Yes, I want kids, but not right away. I think I want to have only one child, but we'll see. I believe kids are worth everything, but I'm not willing to give up my childhood quite yet. I know quite a bit about kids and such, having to be around them all the time, though I'm still a little worried about very small babies. __________________ “The whole problem with the world is that fools and fanatics are always so certain of themselves, but wiser people so full of doubts.” –Bertrand Russell

08-12-2002, 03:18 PM	#16
*azalea* Long lost mooter Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: Florida Posts: 3,342	I have two kids, and I've decided I don't want any. I'M KIDDING! I love having kids and have always wanted kids. I agree with the more the merrier philosophy (although the merrier for whom then becaomes a question ). I think people should wait to make the decision (to get pregnant) until they are finished with college and are married (although I know people who had them at 19 or 20 and are happy, I think it is good to experience life as an adult for a while before becoming a parent). I think people should wait to decide "how many" until they've had one. (Just wait till you've had one, then you'll know why.) I think people who don't think they want children should wait until they are 30 to get permenantly "fixed," because there is a lot of growth that happens between 20 and 30, and you may decide you want them later. This has happened to a lot of people. If you're 45 and decide you want them, it may be too late (if you're a woman)!

08-12-2002, 05:13 PM	#17
BeardofPants the Shrike Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: San Francisco, CA <3 Posts: 10,647	Well I come from a rocky home life of sorts, and I don't tend to develop attachments very easily because of it, and there's no way that I want to put any children through what I went through, and I'm too scared I'd turn into my mother. Plus, I don't think I have any particular urges to have kids. Some people don't, I guess. What I AM sick of, is being patronised by other women (and men) saying that OF COURSE I'LL WANT KIDS, EVERYONE WANTS KIDS, etc, etc. I know I'm still young, but still... I've got some pretty good reasons to no have them. __________________ "Binary solo! 0000001! 00000011! 0000001! 00000011!" ~ The Humans are Dead, Flight of the Conchords

08-12-2002, 05:41 PM	#18
Liviaine Elven Warrior Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Ithilien Posts: 203	Yes, except for the fact of doubt when I get mad. I have a temper because my parents get mad at me every once in a while. I don't want to hurt anyone, but I love to watch kids and teach swimming lessons, so yes. I want them.

08-12-2002, 06:26 PM	#19
Eruviel Greenleaf Alcoholic Villain-Fancying Elf Pirate Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Lyonesse Posts: 4,547	I very certainly do not want kids. First, there's too many kids in the world as is and if I ever lose my mind and decide I do want kids after all (which is not going to happen) I would adopt a kid instead of having my own. Also, I think I would make a terrible mother. I have an awful temper and no patience, and I like having my own time and space, and I would end up resenting any hypothetical children for taking up my time and space, etc. And because I can't stand children. It really bugs me when people say stuff like 'oh, you'll change your mind someday' and all that. It's really annoying. __________________ Eruviel Greenleaf in a past life. "Whoever has come to understand the world has found only a corpse, and whoever has found a corpse is superior to the world." -The Gospel of Thomas SQUAWK!

08-12-2002, 06:36 PM	#20
Faramir Elven Warrior Join Date: May 2002 Location: Ithilien Posts: 353	I would like to have kids. When your old, you'll have people to visit you, and enjoy seeing your kids have kids, and watch with nasty joy as you see them going through the hard parts of parenthood. "All mothers put a curse on their children, they say to their children, "I hope your kids are just like you!" And the curse works!"-Bill Cosby For all you people who don't want to habve kids, that's fine. __________________ This is the Window of the Sunset, Henneth Annun, fairest of all the falls of Ithilien, land of many fountains."-Faramir, Chapter IV, The Two Towers ========================== FRODO LIVES!!! ========================== YODA IS DA MAN!!! ========================== I Love Jesus!

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