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Elf Lord
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Moral Dilemmas
Or should that be "dilemmae"
Anyway, I wondered if it would be good to have a thread to post these and get all sorts of ridiculous advice and comedy, life-ruining suggestions from fellow Mooters. And I've got one so here goes. A friend of mine is getting married. His wife-to-be is a nightmare. And when I say "nightmare" I mean unbelievably rude, totally ignorant and utterly self-centred. I find it almost impossible to be in her company for more than 5 minutes without getting totally enraged. Obviously, I have said nothing to him. However, he has recently expressed doubts to me about getting hitched. Should I tell him he is about to marry a gorgon? |
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Half-Elven Princess of Rabbit Trails and Harp-Wielding Administrator (beware the Rubber Chicken of Doom!)
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Is there a wedding date set? (just gathering info... that's a tough one!)
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Elf Lord
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In 3 weeks (guess who's the best man?)
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Ask him if theres a lot of money in it for him or something.
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Elf Lord
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Heh. I'm pretty confident there's not. All he seems to get out of it is someone who tolerates him playing his computer games. There has been a slight suggestion that time is ticking away and it might not be possible to do any better.
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gorgon?? do you mean vogon
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He hasn't at all realised he's engaged to a 'gorgon'? Or he has, and that's the reason he's having doubts?
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GTG out for a few - backson, as Christopher Robin says ...
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. I should be doing the laundry, but this is MUCH more fun! ![]() "How lovely are Thy dwelling places, O Lord of hosts! ... For a day in Thy courts is better than a thousand outside." (from Psalm 84) * * * God rocks! Entmoot : Veni, vidi, velcro - I came, I saw, I got hooked! Ego numquam pronunciare mendacium, sed ego sum homo indomitus! Run the earth and watch the sky ... Auta i lómë! Aurë entuluva! |
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Warrior of the House of Hador
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If you think that it will make him unhappy then I suggest you tell him what you think. But if you think that he will be happy I suggest you stick with him, and if it doesn't end well then help him. But in the end it his choice, and you may need to stick with him, even if you think h made the wrong choice.
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Elf Lord
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Don't know whether he knows, and hence the jitters, or whether they're just generic pre-nuptual jitters. Well, he doesn't think she's a gorgon, anyway. TD, sound stuff. That, of course, is exactly what I intend to do. Thinking about the consequences, it is hard to imagine a good one. I don't think it's likely he'd change his mind. Got to check me taters, thanks for that. |
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Dear Gaffer,
I suspected that your name came from being in tight spots rather than one to commit social faux pas! Now we have proof in your tender concern for the mate who is apparently giving in to realism (that age remark). If this gent is as well read as yourself, may I suggest the gift to him of a brightly polished shield, a sword, an invisibility cap, and - if you can manage it - a pair of winged sandals. If that doesn't communicate the true nature of events to him, then let what must turn to stone do so! Should the above fail, or you do not have time to procure all the arcana, may I suggest that you offer to arrange a one-way ticket to out-of-here should he have any last minute qualms. My best man did so offer and, while from the vantage point of now I should have taken him up on the offer, I was not at the time in the least offended! Love, as you will have heard is blind (not to meantion deaf, mute, and dumb!). Wishing I knew then what I know now! ![]()
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Half-Elven Princess of Rabbit Trails and Harp-Wielding Administrator (beware the Rubber Chicken of Doom!)
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I was going to suggest handing her a mirror and hoping she turned into stone ...
Failing that - whew! That's a hard call. I wish I knew a few more details. If this is a last-minute wedding, then I think it's somewhat more appropriate for you to take him aside and say, "you know, this is really hard, but I'd hate myself if I didn't do it because I wouldn't be acting as a true friend. I really have concerns about this woman in the following areas (list areas). For example, when this happened, she did this. And when this happened, she said this. Tell me to bug off if you want to, but because I'm your friend, I just had to tell you this. It's your decision, but I want to make sure you have all the information you can." If it's NOT a last-minute wedding (IOW, if you've known you'll be best man for about 4 months now), it's a little trickier, but you could preface it with "I know I should have spoken waaay sooner, but it's so hard to be the one to bring unpleasant topics up...." It just depends on how well you think you know him, and a lot of other things. But I think TD's advice is pretty good. There's NO good answer to this, unfortunately.
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. I should be doing the laundry, but this is MUCH more fun! ![]() "How lovely are Thy dwelling places, O Lord of hosts! ... For a day in Thy courts is better than a thousand outside." (from Psalm 84) * * * God rocks! Entmoot : Veni, vidi, velcro - I came, I saw, I got hooked! Ego numquam pronunciare mendacium, sed ego sum homo indomitus! Run the earth and watch the sky ... Auta i lómë! Aurë entuluva! |
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The other thing that's holding me back is the thought that maybe they're actually quite well suited to each other and if he wants to get married he won't find anyone else. Not a last-minute thing, Rian, though I have only really got to know the extent of the horror in recent weeks. I think I will keep mum but it is a good idea to be on standby in case of last-minute epiphany. Failing that, I will wait until the bloke goes "If anyone knows any reason why this man and this woman should not be joined in marriage..." and then scream hysterically "DON'T DO IT! SHE IS EVIL, CAN YOU NOT SEE?" |
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An enigma in a conundrum
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In The Spirit Of Monty Python
THIS IS SILLY, TOO SILLY, NOT NEEDED, SHOULD BE CLOSED OR RAMBLING ON IN THE TEACUP CAFE
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![]() But otherwise, how long have they been together? Perhaps he knows about her bad qualities, has got used to them and thinks he can put up with them. Last edited by sun-star : 10-11-2005 at 09:32 AM. |
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![]() This thread is deeper than it first appears, Spock. It's not logical, perhaps, but it is quintessentially human. ![]()
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However, he likes to spend all of his free time on the computer, she likes to veg out in front of Judge Judy type programmes with the volume turned up. (Including when there are guests.) It's hard to imagine a combination where each would get that level of indulgence of an antisocial habit from a partner. It has occured to me that maybe they are perfectly matched even if for this reason alone. Inked, thanks for your understanding and defence against the forces of big brother which would consign this thread to the bin. ![]() The idea was generally for somewhere to post about the trivial, yet taxing condundra we all face. I am impressed at the quality of the advice given so far, I must say. |
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i'd tell him to not get married... i've said it to friends before... "live together for a while and see if you can really stand each other" and all that
though it may be a bit late for that, with plans so close and all any change would be taken the wrong way but it's not like marriage has to be forever these days ![]()
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An enigma in a conundrum
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goes looking for his mucker boots
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Originally Posted by inked
This thread is deeper than it first appears, Spock. It's not logical, perhaps, but it is quintessentially human. If it is, it came in on your feet. Last edited by Spock : 10-11-2005 at 12:12 PM. |
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