im going to be a daddy!!!!!!! - Page 5

Elven Archer · 02-26-2003, 12:51 PM

If you don't want it to grow up and be like you, then try to change so you'll be someone you'd want your kid to be like.

Don't know if any peternal insticts kick in. Although yesterday i was watching a TV show,and there was a girl on there about to have a baby but she didn't know anything about babies or what to do,so she was really worried and wanted her mom to help her out. Anyway my mom said something like "that's the same way i was." But she's did a pretty good job raising 5 kids so maybe a peternal instinct does kick in.

Good luck with it though!

Baby-K · 02-27-2003, 06:15 AM

Hi Sween, congratulations with your engagement as well as the soon-to-be birth of your baby, hope you and Vita (it is Vita isn't it?) are extremely happy.

Don't worry about any paternal instincts, they sort themselves out once the young one is there. No amount of mental prep could ever prepare you for the actual event, it's quite scary but at the same time the best thing ever. You will be amazed how such a small being could so totally control you with their cries, laughter & even poopy nappies.

It's a very daunting prospect, 'cos you always wonder if you're doing the right thing (I doubt if that ever goes away, no matter how old you get or how many kids you have). But rest assured that your best will always be enough for your kids.

When the kid is old enough you can take him / her along to the pub - no better place to learn about the facts of life

Lizra · 02-27-2003, 07:47 AM

Yeah, Just try to sober up and the rest will just happen. (Hangovers, no matter how small, do not go well with babies, ugh!

)

Think of your new baby as your golden opportunity to "get it together" personally. You now have an excuse to stay home, watch the tube, read, take naps and eat good food. If your wife decides she wants to get back into shape, you both can incorporate exercise (another healthy and "fun" good habit) into the "new" routine! Follow your wife's lead, she is the one who is going to go through some MAJOR changes, as soon as the baby comes. Don't let a few "freak outs" scare you.

Going from a child (you and her) to a parent so quickly will be a little strange, but it will happen. (everyone who has a child goes through it, as you said yourself, way back when, You'll be fine!) Each mother has her own style, I am one to not let babies cry. If they cry, I pick them up and rock them. Is she going to nurse the baby? This is an important decision. If she is, get one of those "Rocker/glider chairs. They are great for comfortable rocking, feeding and easing babies (and mommies) back to sleep.
Please, get some newborn pacifiers. If YOU don't know what you're doing,

the baby will at least know how to sooth itself by sucking on a pacifier (while mom or dad sits in the glider, rocking it and loving it! )

The first six weeks, just give it up! The baby will want to eat and sleep constantly (not at the same time you do, just go with the baby and relax!) If she is nursing, just tell her to unbutton her shirt and leave it that way!

If you are doing bottles, I'm not sure how that works. You'll soon be changing enough diapers to get the hang of it, try not to let the baby get diaper rash! I always tried to get a change in before feeding and rocking, as a newborn infant usually falls alseep during the feed/rock (yea!

) and you don't want to worry about waking him back up to change his diaper after you finally get him to sleep! Just go with the flow, and quit drinking! PM me if you want more boring advice. Cheers, an orange juice to you!

Coney · 02-27-2003, 08:08 AM

Hey Sween, there's a pint of something cold to help ya through the early days

Seriously tho'.....yer'll miss the pub, but it'll be worth it

Hmm....my one peice of advice?

Buy flowers.........buy 3 bunches of flowers every week.

One bunch for the future Mrs Sween (because her hormones will be flying around like a Mr Sween in the pub during Happy Hour).

And a bunch each for you Mum and future Mum-in-law (because when Sween jnr starts teething you're gonna need a babysitter, if only for the chance for you and Mrs Sween to get some sleep).

As for the rest.....relax, talk to people who are in the know (Like Lizra and others here, yer mum and dad will be a vital source of info as well).

Sween · 02-27-2003, 10:41 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Coney
Hey Sween, there's a pint of something cold to help ya through the early days

Seriously tho'.....yer'll miss the pub, but it'll be worth it

Hmm....my one peice of advice?

Buy flowers.........buy 3 bunches of flowers every week.

One bunch for the future Mrs Sween (because her hormones will be flying around like a Mr Sween in the pub during Happy Hour).

And a bunch each for you Mum and future Mum-in-law (because when Sween jnr starts teething you're gonna need a babysitter, if only for the chance for you and Mrs Sween to get some sleep).

As for the rest.....relax, talk to people who are in the know (Like Lizra and others here, yer mum and dad will be a vital source of info as well).

beer how i will miss it lol in all seriousness ive pretty much given up the drink have more important things to be on with. good call on the flowers. My basic plan was to be there 100% for vita and the baby esspecially vita as well its hard on you women isnt it. ive got to be the one that does all the *****y jobs and does not complain me thinks

Lizra · 02-27-2003, 12:29 PM

Yes, The mothers, (soon to be grandmothers) will become VERY important to your wife. (Someone I can leave the baby with and not worry) Start "buttering them up" now!

Sween · 02-27-2003, 03:03 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Lizra
Yes, The mothers, (soon to be grandmothers) will become VERY important to your wife. (Someone I can leave the baby with and not worry) Start "buttering them up" now!

allready done

***azalea*** · 02-27-2003, 11:59 PM

I'm so excited for you! I think you'll do a good job because the fact that you're worried means you actually care, which is the most important thing. My advice is Don't Give Up! It will be very hard at first, and you'll wonder why you shouldn't just get in the car, drive to the airport and take the next plane to Fiji (not that I ever had any thoughts like that

). But think of it as a long-term challenge. Your own personal fellowship, as it were.

But instead of throwing an evil ring into a fiery pit, your task is to raise a happy, healthy, well-rounded individual that will be kind to others. The way you accomplish this is not important -- that's where the instinct comes in -- just follow your heart, and keep communicating w/ Vita. Moms do have some instincts as far as child-rearing goes, but don't be afraid to do things your own way. Dads are VERY important!!!!x9999 Discipline as calmly as you can (when the child is older).
Oh, and expect NO sleep for the first month. I'm not exaggerating. Take up either mother's offer of free babysitting, you will have a new appreciation for them both when you get to leave the baby with someone you trust completely and have a break. Enjoy the wild ride!

Legolas_Frodo_Aragorn · 02-28-2003, 09:31 AM

congrads sween! Good luck on raising your child...but you know what they say...like father like son....or like mother like daughter.
Im sure it will be hard for a while...but just remember that it will get better when your baby cries at 3:00 in the morning........

Sminty_Smeagol · 02-28-2003, 09:34 AM

Blech. Babies. Disgusting. Children. Disgusting. I am a child lol, but I would never wanna have kids. The little aliens all look the same. They just mooch your money off of you.

ummm I guess if babies are your thing, congrats.

heh don't listen to meee....

Sween · 02-28-2003, 10:32 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Legolas_Frodo_Aragorn
congrads sween! Good luck on raising your child...but you know what they say...like father like son....or like mother like daughter.
Im sure it will be hard for a while...but just remember that it will get better when your baby cries at 3:00 in the morning........

well its a little girl so hey hey not like me thats a good thing

! hopeing she likes footie and beer thou

samwiselvr2008 · 03-02-2003, 04:28 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Sween
well its a little girl so hey hey not like me thats a good thing ! hopeing she likes footie and beer thou

A drunk 1 week old? Hmmm...

Legolaslvr! · 03-02-2003, 06:21 PM

yeah!
Oh well good luck sween!

Lefty Scaevola · 03-02-2003, 07:16 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Sween
im going to be a father im so pleased .

any advice for me?

You are soooo doomed!

Elenka · 03-02-2003, 07:42 PM

That's the spirit!!

Lady of Rohan · 03-02-2003, 07:53 PM

Congrats Sween and good luck!

Lady_of_the_Golden_Wood · 03-03-2003, 12:23 AM

Um...

Artanis · 03-03-2003, 04:22 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Lefty Scaevola
You are soooo doomed!

OMG, if you're doomed with just one kid, what then with 3?

You just relax Sween, you're going to be fine. But beware, your daughter will soon charm you to the point where you'll do everything that she want

You know, girls ...

Sween · 03-03-2003, 12:16 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Artanis
OMG, if you're doomed with just one kid, what then with 3?
You just relax Sween, you're going to be fine. But beware, your daughter will soon charm you to the point where you'll do everything that she want You know, girls ...

behind this sexiest pig exterior lies the heart of a true softie!

to the person that said i was doomed ur wrong im gonna be great cannot wait till the birth now.....the other half on the other hand is dreading it

Artanis · 03-03-2003, 01:51 PM

Are you going to be there when your gf gives birth?

02-26-2003, 12:51 PM	#81
Elven Archer Elven Warrior Join Date: May 2002 Location: America! Posts: 480	If you don't want it to grow up and be like you, then try to change so you'll be someone you'd want your kid to be like. Don't know if any peternal insticts kick in. Although yesterday i was watching a TV show,and there was a girl on there about to have a baby but she didn't know anything about babies or what to do,so she was really worried and wanted her mom to help her out. Anyway my mom said something like "that's the same way i was." But she's did a pretty good job raising 5 kids so maybe a peternal instinct does kick in. Good luck with it though! __________________ "In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: 'it goes on'." ~robert frost

02-27-2003, 06:15 AM	#82
Baby-K Corruptor Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: Jozi SA Posts: 1,885	Hi Sween, congratulations with your engagement as well as the soon-to-be birth of your baby, hope you and Vita (it is Vita isn't it?) are extremely happy. Don't worry about any paternal instincts, they sort themselves out once the young one is there. No amount of mental prep could ever prepare you for the actual event, it's quite scary but at the same time the best thing ever. You will be amazed how such a small being could so totally control you with their cries, laughter & even poopy nappies. It's a very daunting prospect, 'cos you always wonder if you're doing the right thing (I doubt if that ever goes away, no matter how old you get or how many kids you have). But rest assured that your best will always be enough for your kids. When the kid is old enough you can take him / her along to the pub - no better place to learn about the facts of life __________________ Don't wet yourself with excitement.

02-27-2003, 07:47 AM	#83
Lizra Domesticated Swing Babe Join Date: May 2002 Location: Reality Posts: 5,340	Yeah, Just try to sober up and the rest will just happen. (Hangovers, no matter how small, do not go well with babies, ugh! ) Think of your new baby as your golden opportunity to "get it together" personally. You now have an excuse to stay home, watch the tube, read, take naps and eat good food. If your wife decides she wants to get back into shape, you both can incorporate exercise (another healthy and "fun" good habit) into the "new" routine! Follow your wife's lead, she is the one who is going to go through some MAJOR changes, as soon as the baby comes. Don't let a few "freak outs" scare you. Going from a child (you and her) to a parent so quickly will be a little strange, but it will happen. (everyone who has a child goes through it, as you said yourself, way back when, You'll be fine!) Each mother has her own style, I am one to not let babies cry. If they cry, I pick them up and rock them. Is she going to nurse the baby? This is an important decision. If she is, get one of those "Rocker/glider chairs. They are great for comfortable rocking, feeding and easing babies (and mommies) back to sleep. Please, get some newborn pacifiers. If YOU don't know what you're doing, the baby will at least know how to sooth itself by sucking on a pacifier (while mom or dad sits in the glider, rocking it and loving it! ) The first six weeks, just give it up! The baby will want to eat and sleep constantly (not at the same time you do, just go with the baby and relax!) If she is nursing, just tell her to unbutton her shirt and leave it that way! If you are doing bottles, I'm not sure how that works. You'll soon be changing enough diapers to get the hang of it, try not to let the baby get diaper rash! I always tried to get a change in before feeding and rocking, as a newborn infant usually falls alseep during the feed/rock (yea! ) and you don't want to worry about waking him back up to change his diaper after you finally get him to sleep! Just go with the flow, and quit drinking! PM me if you want more boring advice. Cheers, an orange juice to you! __________________ Happy Atheist Go Democrats!

02-27-2003, 08:08 AM	#84
Coney The Buddy Rabbit Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Trapped in the headlights.. Posts: 3,372	Hey Sween, there's a pint of something cold to help ya through the early days Seriously tho'.....yer'll miss the pub, but it'll be worth it Hmm....my one peice of advice? Buy flowers.........buy 3 bunches of flowers every week. One bunch for the future Mrs Sween (because her hormones will be flying around like a Mr Sween in the pub during Happy Hour). And a bunch each for you Mum and future Mum-in-law (because when Sween jnr starts teething you're gonna need a babysitter, if only for the chance for you and Mrs Sween to get some sleep). As for the rest.....relax, talk to people who are in the know (Like Lizra and others here, yer mum and dad will be a vital source of info as well). __________________ Blessed are the cracked, they let the light in Beatallica Last edited by Coney : 02-27-2003 at 08:10 AM.

02-27-2003, 12:29 PM	#86
Lizra Domesticated Swing Babe Join Date: May 2002 Location: Reality Posts: 5,340	Yes, The mothers, (soon to be grandmothers) will become VERY important to your wife. (Someone I can leave the baby with and not worry) Start "buttering them up" now! __________________ Happy Atheist Go Democrats!

02-27-2003, 11:59 PM	#88
*azalea* Long lost mooter Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: Florida Posts: 3,342	I'm so excited for you! I think you'll do a good job because the fact that you're worried means you actually care, which is the most important thing. My advice is Don't Give Up! It will be very hard at first, and you'll wonder why you shouldn't just get in the car, drive to the airport and take the next plane to Fiji (not that I ever had any thoughts like that ). But think of it as a long-term challenge. Your own personal fellowship, as it were. But instead of throwing an evil ring into a fiery pit, your task is to raise a happy, healthy, well-rounded individual that will be kind to others. The way you accomplish this is not important -- that's where the instinct comes in -- just follow your heart, and keep communicating w/ Vita. Moms do have some instincts as far as child-rearing goes, but don't be afraid to do things your own way. Dads are VERY important!!!!x9999 Discipline as calmly as you can (when the child is older). Oh, and expect NO sleep for the first month. I'm not exaggerating. Take up either mother's offer of free babysitting, you will have a new appreciation for them both when you get to leave the baby with someone you trust completely and have a break. Enjoy the wild ride!

02-28-2003, 09:31 AM	#89
Legolas_Frodo_Aragorn The Elven Queen Of All Pyros Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: Im like a little bug stuck in the lamp...never going anywhere Posts: 795	congrads sween! Good luck on raising your child...but you know what they say...like father like son....or like mother like daughter. Im sure it will be hard for a while...but just remember that it will get better when your baby cries at 3:00 in the morning........ __________________ Would you judge my future based on what i did in the past? Procrastinators Unite!!!.....tomorrrow.... Kids in backseats cause accidents...accidents in backseats cause kids As long as there are tests..there will be prayers in school

02-28-2003, 09:34 AM	#90
Sminty_Smeagol Manic Cardboard-Box Dweller Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: In a house Posts: 1,071	Blech. Babies. Disgusting. Children. Disgusting. I am a child lol, but I would never wanna have kids. The little aliens all look the same. They just mooch your money off of you. ummm I guess if babies are your thing, congrats. heh don't listen to meee.... __________________ I love the fishes.

03-02-2003, 06:21 PM	#93
Legolaslvr! Super Smilie Freak Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: In the entmoot army, trying to get rid of black and blue! Posts: 350	yeah! Oh well good luck sween! __________________ MO The fat hobbit hobbit knows!

03-02-2003, 07:42 PM	#95
Elenka The Negative Soul of Entmoot Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: The Middle Distance Posts: 651	That's the spirit!! __________________ W00T for the M00T!! War doesn't determine who is right - war determines who is left.

03-02-2003, 07:53 PM	#96
Lady of Rohan Doughy Elf Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Canada Posts: 1,006	Congrats Sween and good luck!

03-03-2003, 12:23 AM	#97
Lady_of_the_Golden_Wood The Precious Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Glasgow Posts: 204	Um... __________________ was holding on hanging by a thread clinging to three words you said but words are meaningless in your absence.

03-03-2003, 01:51 PM	#100
Artanis Greatest Elven woman of Aman Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: Having way too much fun with Fëanor's 7 Posts: 4,285	Are you going to be there when your gf gives birth? __________________ --Life is hard, and then we die.

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