*sighs mournfully*

ArwenEvenstar · 11-28-2002, 07:25 AM

i am so freaking worried about my parents! I think that they might be getting divorced

When they talk most days it's fighting/b!tching

I was talking to my RL friends and they all say get over it, I can't help it if I'm a sheltered child.

Any advice? ? ?

Hanza · 11-28-2002, 08:40 AM

Talk to your parents about it. Say your worried and want to know whats going on.
I'm sure its nothing and they are just going through a rough patch

Lizra · 11-28-2002, 09:45 AM

That's tough! When people as closely connected as a husband and wife have serious arguments, It gets "down and dirty" sometimes, and probably does sound terrible. There can be a lot at stake, and "pride" is often involved. If things get bottled up for several years, when they finally come out, it's explosive! Hopefully what you are hearing sounds worse that it really is. It's hard to give advice, as everybody ( your parents have 3 different personalities, your dad is a husband, a dad, and a man with a romantic relationship with a woman, your mom is the feminine counterpart, you see the "Mom/Dad" people, but the others are there too!) has different ways of arguing and expressing themselves.
IF IT WAS ME (but this might not work for someone else!

) I would bring it up, calmly, but bluntly....You all seem to be arguing a lot lately, and I'm worried you're going to get a divorce! What's going on here? Of course, this might start "Round 15" or whatever, with blame being slung about, I don't know what's up. You might want to ask just one of them, I don't know. Being a "grownup" with a family is very, very hard! There are so many things that put immense pressures on you. I sure hope they work through this! As I stated earlier, the arguing could sound worse than it really is, sometimes you gotta have a real knock down, drag out ordeal, to clear the air and get the bad feelings, emotional disappointments, and anger out! Hope this passes soon!

Duddun · 11-28-2002, 11:10 AM

I hate it when my parents fight.

And they don't even fight much. I hope your parents stop fighting.

Coney · 11-28-2002, 11:38 AM

Talk to them both at the same time and, if possible, when they are both in a good mood.

If you can communicate with each other as a family it might start them talking as man and wife in a more civil way

ArwenEvenstar · 11-28-2002, 07:41 PM

mom's always in a bad mood so the talking thing wont help

(thanks for the idea though

) when i try talking to dad he always goes on about how mom's such a

b!tch

. Today in gym i was kinda upset (1st period) my "friend" walks up and more or less says "Suck it up buttercup" about my folks, and says that her parents prolly fight more then mine do. . . it dosent matter whos parents fight more

it's not a good thing, but there's nothing i can do!!!

Starr Polish · 11-29-2002, 12:50 AM

Are any of your friends parents divorced? Maybe you could talk to those friends about it and not have to worry about people coming up to you and saying insensitive things like that.

In a situation like this you should never have to 'suck it up, buttercup', because it is painful and hurtful. You should, however, be careful not to assume. Adults go through rough patches and often come out fairly unscathed.

My parents are divorced, and my mom is remarried. I don't remember too much from my parents divorce, since I was really young, but my mom and stepdad have had extremely rough and scary patches, so I can empathize with what's going on with you right now.

The best advice I can give you is not broadcast to all of the school that your parents are fighting a lot (since a lot of kids' parents do this as well). Perhaps just discuss it with some really close friends, talk to a counselor, write it in a diary or someone online (one to one, not on a messageboard).

11-28-2002, 07:25 AM	#1
ArwenEvenstar Elf Lord Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: and why do YOU want to know? Posts: 685	*sighs mournfully* i am so freaking worried about my parents! I think that they might be getting divorced When they talk most days it's fighting/b!tching I was talking to my RL friends and they all say get over it, I can't help it if I'm a sheltered child. Any advice? ? ? __________________ The only thing active about me is my imagination!

11-28-2002, 08:40 AM	#2
Hanza Woolly Jumper Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: In my field of paper flowers and candy clouds of lullaby Posts: 1,200	Talk to your parents about it. Say your worried and want to know whats going on. I'm sure its nothing and they are just going through a rough patch __________________ :: there's nothing comforting in change:: Why dont sheep shrink in the rain??

11-28-2002, 09:45 AM	#3
Lizra Domesticated Swing Babe Join Date: May 2002 Location: Reality Posts: 5,340	That's tough! When people as closely connected as a husband and wife have serious arguments, It gets "down and dirty" sometimes, and probably does sound terrible. There can be a lot at stake, and "pride" is often involved. If things get bottled up for several years, when they finally come out, it's explosive! Hopefully what you are hearing sounds worse that it really is. It's hard to give advice, as everybody ( your parents have 3 different personalities, your dad is a husband, a dad, and a man with a romantic relationship with a woman, your mom is the feminine counterpart, you see the "Mom/Dad" people, but the others are there too!) has different ways of arguing and expressing themselves. IF IT WAS ME (but this might not work for someone else! ) I would bring it up, calmly, but bluntly....You all seem to be arguing a lot lately, and I'm worried you're going to get a divorce! What's going on here? Of course, this might start "Round 15" or whatever, with blame being slung about, I don't know what's up. You might want to ask just one of them, I don't know. Being a "grownup" with a family is very, very hard! There are so many things that put immense pressures on you. I sure hope they work through this! As I stated earlier, the arguing could sound worse than it really is, sometimes you gotta have a real knock down, drag out ordeal, to clear the air and get the bad feelings, emotional disappointments, and anger out! Hope this passes soon! __________________ Happy Atheist Go Democrats! Last edited by Lizra : 11-28-2002 at 09:49 AM.

11-28-2002, 11:10 AM	#4
Duddun I Antha Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: You expect ME to know? Posts: 784	I hate it when my parents fight. And they don't even fight much. I hope your parents stop fighting. __________________ If you say my name I go "What?" If you say my name twice I go and look it up in the dictionary. **************************** I'm Not Evil! ************************** If the critics say it's good, is it really That good? ************************** It's a bird! It's a plane! No! It's a balloon! **************************** Duddun, Son of Bubbun

11-28-2002, 11:38 AM	#5
Coney The Buddy Rabbit Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Trapped in the headlights.. Posts: 3,372	Talk to them both at the same time and, if possible, when they are both in a good mood. If you can communicate with each other as a family it might start them talking as man and wife in a more civil way __________________ Blessed are the cracked, they let the light in Beatallica

11-29-2002, 12:50 AM	#7
Starr Polish Elf Lord Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Slow down and I sail on the river, slow down and I walk to the hill Posts: 2,389	Are any of your friends parents divorced? Maybe you could talk to those friends about it and not have to worry about people coming up to you and saying insensitive things like that. In a situation like this you should never have to 'suck it up, buttercup', because it is painful and hurtful. You should, however, be careful not to assume. Adults go through rough patches and often come out fairly unscathed. My parents are divorced, and my mom is remarried. I don't remember too much from my parents divorce, since I was really young, but my mom and stepdad have had extremely rough and scary patches, so I can empathize with what's going on with you right now. The best advice I can give you is not broadcast to all of the school that your parents are fighting a lot (since a lot of kids' parents do this as well). Perhaps just discuss it with some really close friends, talk to a counselor, write it in a diary or someone online (one to one, not on a messageboard). __________________ “The whole problem with the world is that fools and fanatics are always so certain of themselves, but wiser people so full of doubts.” –Bertrand Russell