Love???

[BeardofPants]

Hoo boy, I hope your girlfriend doesn't know this... Lemme guess, you met someone from college?

[Khamûl]

Oh no.... it's not me. I promise. It involves three of my good friends from high school. My girlfriend is involved, but she's just the one I was having the debate with. I'm in love with only one person and that's all I need.

[Arandir]

To paraphrase a line from an old movie, "Love? Love is like wine, the after effects of both have been unpleasant. So, I've given up wine... and love."

I know........ very cynical..... but too often true.

[Drgnslyer]

I know that for myself, love is most definately there

As I look at a picture of (many of you will know her as Nurvingiel) my gf, I look forward to next september and having a chance for us to live togeather...

We've been togeather for almost 2 and a half years, but have known eachother for a very long period of time, and went through highschool togeather as well...

though what was it that made me realize just how much i loved her?

Long story short, i was in a nasty car accident and she and her family were the first to arrive in the ER where i was awaiting a chance to go through the CAT scan to get an idea on just how bad my injuries were, I was passing in and out of conciousness, and remember blurry images of friends and family leaning over my bed, but the only person at the moment *the first sign* that i wanted to see was her, and i held up my hand. My neck was braced so I couldn't even try looking around, not that i wanted to...

Remember, at this point all anyone really knew was that there was internal injuries, noone knew to what extent, and for all anyone knew i could simply slip into an extremely unstable condition with potentially devestating results.....

Emily (nurvingiel) held my hand and looked into my eyes.

At that one moment it literally felt like i fell up into her eyes, and everything around seemed to literally freeze. At that moment, all the uncertenty, the chaos, and the confusion of the moment were instantly erased and at once i knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that i would be alright.

When you have a moment like that, where it's so powerful that the single second it lasts changes your entire life forever....it's a pretty good bet that you're in love.

[BeardofPants]

Aw, Nurv, where've ye been hiding him?

[The Gaffer]

Oh GOd, I'm filling up. Pass the hankies.

Hope you recovered OK.

I don't think it's possible to be genuinely in love with more than one person. People I know who've tried it in practice have, I think, been more concerned with getting what they want than with the well being of their loved one/s.

[Drgnslyer]

Originally posted by The Gaffer
Oh GOd, I'm filling up. Pass the hankies.

Hope you recovered OK.

I don't think it's possible to be genuinely in love with more than one person. People I know who've tried it in practice have, I think, been more concerned with getting what they want than with the well being of their loved one/s.

Too true!

Everyone involved made miraculous recoveries...someone was watching over us, that I firmly believe!

Even one of my friends who was simply given a 50% chance of survival and who was comatose for months has made a full recovery and is planning on law school.

[Nurvingiel]

Tyler you sweetie, (Drgnslyer) you speak (write) so well.

I can't really say anything to add to that, except maybe recount my own experience with the car accident.

I got home that day and my mom looked very serious. She told me you had been in a car accident. I was so afraid that you had been injured seriously, or worse. You were, and are, one of my closest friends.
My mom hastily added that you were okay. My immediate fears were relieved, but I couldn't rest until we went to the hospital to see you.
I held your hand as you drifted in and out of consciousness, and I knew you were going to be okay, because I could not accept otherwise.
I love you, and I have for a long time - it has changed and grown over the years.

[Drgnslyer]

Who says long distance can't work?

I've had lots of people say that, and I can't help but shake my head at them...long distance does infact work if you want it to enough.

If you believe in something enough, and if you want it to happen strong enough, you can make anything work out for you....

Through thick and thin emily/nurvingiel and I have made our relationship work, we started out as close friends, she moved to university and i moved to work, but regardless we're still going strong, and our love for eachother has done nothing but grow.

Even with Nurv off in sweden, and me back here at home in canada, we still focus on what will come to pass once we're back to geather again, and al the waiting is more than worth it

*how's that for a post to bump the thread*

[The Gaffer]

The Gammer and I started as a long-distance relationship. We got off with each other at the millenium and then had 18 months living at opposite ends of the country before she moved down to England.

We had the advantage that we already knew each other so there were no wanky mind games. I think where you don't know the other person that well it's much more difficult. You can easily get messed up ideas about what the other one is thinking.

[brownjenkins]

nice bump

was funny reading a post i made eight months ago

good to here it's working for you... i think as long as the desire is there on both sides as you say, it can work... i've never been in any long distance relationships... but my current one involves someone who is very different in terms of personality/interests... which is distance in a different way i guess... yet somehow it rarely seems to effect our appreciation for one another

[The Gaffer]

Heh! Opposites definitely attract.

Though not always; sometimes the next room can be a million miles away (reminds me of my first marriage )

[Janny]

Nice use of English swear words unbeknowst to the A-m-e-r-i-c-a-n-s-es.

I only dropped by because of the way the thread is called on the list:

Love???
Sexy Hobbit Chick.

[Rían]

OK, now this A-m-e-r-i-c-a-n is curious!! What were the words? (and what do they mean?)

[Janny]

*Thinks*... well... 'wanky'... erm... in that context means very little... well... erm...

[The Gaffer]

Ah, ahem, er, literally "wank" means onanism; not really a swear word, though if you called someone a "wanker" they wouldn't be too chuffed about it.

Here it's used metaphorically to indicate self-indulgent game-playing in the relationship stakes. You know, point-scoring, not wanting to be the first to pick up the phone because it makes you look desperate, that sort of thing. Basically, the subject matter of virtually any Hollywood teen romance film of the last 50 years.

Nice new avatar, Janny.

[Janny]

'Not to chuffed about it' being a colloquial Oxfordshire term for 'smacking you in the face'.

Thanks, I'm going for the innocent young look...

[Mercutio]

Originally Posted by Janny

'Not to chuffed about it'

Bertie Wooster had a friend nicknamed Chuffy (his last name was Chuffnel I believe).

It's like Barmy Fotheringay-Phipps, and Gussie Fink Nottle, and all those chaps.

[Lady Ravyn]

truthfully, i'm glad someone bumped this thread up; i was going to start one like it soon.

i'm 17, but i didn't start dating til last month. (heh heh, he's sorta the reason i haven't been mooting that much lately ) he's 19, and he's such a great guy. we are so alike in so many things- important things, too, not just everyday things like music, etc. we especially agreed that saying "i love you" should be something you wait to use; something you only say to a person who you can picture yourself with for a really long time. but even though we both agreed totally on that point, last week we started saying it to each other lol
he makes me so happy and treats me with such respect and love that i really can look into the future and see him there.
but my only concern is this: i've never dated anyone else, so how do i know that i love him and this isn't just infatuation? is what i've just described love? i think it is, but i want to be sure. i mean, has anyone else stayed with the first person they went out with?

[Millane]

Originally Posted by Lady Ravyn

truthfully, i'm glad someone bumped this thread up; i was going to start one like it soon.

i'm 17, but i didn't start dating til last month. (heh heh, he's sorta the reason i haven't been mooting that much lately ) he's 19, and he's such a great guy. we are so alike in so many things- important things, too, not just everyday things like music, etc. we especially agreed that saying "i love you" should be something you wait to use; something you only say to a person who you can picture yourself with for a really long time. but even though we both agreed totally on that point, last week we started saying it to each other lol
he makes me so happy and treats me with such respect and love that i really can look into the future and see him there.
but my only concern is this: i've never dated anyone else, so how do i know that i love him and this isn't just infatuation? is what i've just described love? i think it is, but i want to be sure. i mean, has anyone else stayed with the first person they went out with?

take my advice and dont give a **** about love. have fun does it really matter if you are infatuated or in love if you are having a good time and your happy with your relationship