What's your biggest regret - Page 4

Lizra · 06-06-2002, 11:07 AM

Awww Mirrille, Just keep plugging away! Please don't take it too hard. You really don't know why all the rejections, really! You imagine it's something lacking in you, but the reason can very easily be something out of your control. (probably is!) Gosh, That's the lesson of the Tweens, life is a real b*tch! Teachers and parents and other well meaning adults help out when you're young and make it seem easy, but it's not! Just (as my hubby and I have to say constantly) do the best you can and keep plugging away! DON'T take it so personnally ! You are a very cool, wonderful person I'm sure.

Rána Eressëa · 06-06-2002, 04:03 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Wayfarer
Then it's not really regret. Regret is a feeling of sorrow over something that has passed.

More than likely, may I say, you've a more elvish outlook on life (as do I). The draught we drink is bittersweet, but it's taste is better for that.

Honestly, sometimes life breaks my heart. But sorrow makes the joys of life more poignant, and more beautiful.

It is regret. I regret things, but somehow I find that I don't feel sorrow for them; I just wish they never happened. Or maybe in some little obsecure corner of my head there is sorrow, but I tend to veer away from it and not recognize it's there.

I agree with the elvish outlook on life. Sometimes life really hurts at times and I don't understand it, but I always find that even the little joys can brighten me up and erase the sorrows away. All happiness seems to flood light into the darkened spots.

Wayfarer · 06-06-2002, 05:47 PM

If you wish they'd never happened, then it would seem that you are sorry that they did.

Rána Eressëa · 06-06-2002, 06:09 PM

Well, hey, I can say "I wish that never happened!" but it doesn't mean I have to mumble/groan/cry about it.

It's not necessarily something you can feel sorry for, if in truth, it wasn't your fault. It's not that I feel sorry, because I won't, but I do sometimes think, "Now, that wasn't right. It shouldn't have happened."

Wayfarer · 06-06-2002, 06:28 PM

What you mean to say is it's not all that important?

Andúril · 06-07-2002, 03:01 AM

I regret the fact that I only started my BA now, in this late stage of mine life.

Wait.....I'm 21........err nevermind

[regret]Hmmm.......maybe I shouldn't have started that BCom......[/regret]

LuthienTinuviel · 06-08-2002, 11:38 PM

regrets.. hmm.. in addition to me being a bitch, i regret eating so much food... all the time.. i don't like being chubby

afro-elf · 06-21-2002, 05:31 PM

"It's an awful truth that suffering can deepen us, give a greater luster to our colors, a richer resonance to our words. That is, if it doesn't destroy us, if it doesn't burn away the optimism and the spirit, the capacity for visions, and the respect for simple yet indispensable things."

lestat

culled from RE's crossroads of arda

Sicirus · 06-21-2002, 07:54 PM

That is a really true and truthfull quote.

Cirdan · 06-23-2002, 02:34 AM

LIfe is full of regrets. It's how you respond to those feelings of regret that make the difference. Some people let these regrets crush their spirit. Others learn and accept the mistakes and try to avoid them. The quote should really be "That which does not kill us CAN make us stronger."

Regrets, I got a mountain of them. I've tried to learn from them all. Some events are just pointless pain that you endure. When you are confident in the knowledge of what you can survive, when a familiar threat or catastrophe occurs, you know, despite the fear, that you are capable of overcoming or withstanding it.

Someone once said that the key to happiness is a poor memory. To some degree that is true, but you must learn from the bad decisions, accpept that the past is the past, and live in the moment. Too much baggage can ruin any trip.

I was asked recently if I was afraid of the surgery I'm having soon. I said no, and the response was, "well, there are benifits to growing older." The implication is that, having survived the "slings and aroows of outrageous fortune" this long, then "once more, to the breech" is not an overwhelming feeling and I can deal with the issues in a less desparate and irrational way.

06-06-2002, 11:07 AM	#61
Lizra Domesticated Swing Babe Join Date: May 2002 Location: Reality Posts: 5,340	Awww Mirrille, Just keep plugging away! Please don't take it too hard. You really don't know why all the rejections, really! You imagine it's something lacking in you, but the reason can very easily be something out of your control. (probably is!) Gosh, That's the lesson of the Tweens, life is a real b*tch! Teachers and parents and other well meaning adults help out when you're young and make it seem easy, but it's not! Just (as my hubby and I have to say constantly) do the best you can and keep plugging away! DON'T take it so personnally ! You are a very cool, wonderful person I'm sure. __________________ Happy Atheist Go Democrats!

06-06-2002, 05:47 PM	#63
Wayfarer The Insufferable Join Date: Aug 2001 Posts: 3,333	If you wish they'd never happened, then it would seem that you are sorry that they did. __________________ Disgraced he may be, yet is not dethroned, and keeps the rags of lordship once he owned

06-06-2002, 06:28 PM	#65
Wayfarer The Insufferable Join Date: Aug 2001 Posts: 3,333	What you mean to say is it's not all that important? __________________ Disgraced he may be, yet is not dethroned, and keeps the rags of lordship once he owned

06-08-2002, 11:38 PM	#67
LuthienTinuviel protector of orphaned rabbits Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Kalamazoo... yes, its a real place! Posts: 1,236	regrets.. hmm.. in addition to me being a bitch, i regret eating so much food... all the time.. i don't like being chubby __________________

06-21-2002, 05:31 PM	#68
afro-elf Hoplite Nomad Join Date: Sep 2001 Posts: 3,931	"It's an awful truth that suffering can deepen us, give a greater luster to our colors, a richer resonance to our words. That is, if it doesn't destroy us, if it doesn't burn away the optimism and the spirit, the capacity for visions, and the respect for simple yet indispensable things." lestat culled from RE's crossroads of arda __________________ About Eowyn, Does anyone know what her alias Dernhelm means? She was kown as dernhelm because of her exclaimation when she realized that the rider's headgear was heavy and obscured her sight. 'Dern Helm" Culled from Entmoot From Kirinski 57 and Wayfarer.

06-06-2002, 06:09 PM	#64
Rána Eressëa The Rogue Elf Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 1,722	Well, hey, I can say "I wish that never happened!" but it doesn't mean I have to mumble/groan/cry about it. It's not necessarily something you can feel sorry for, if in truth, it wasn't your fault. It's not that I feel sorry, because I won't, but I do sometimes think, "Now, that wasn't right. It shouldn't have happened."

06-07-2002, 03:01 AM	#66
Andúril The Original Corruptor Join Date: Feb 2002 Posts: 2,881	I regret the fact that I only started my BA now, in this late stage of mine life. Wait.....I'm 21........err nevermind [regret]Hmmm.......maybe I shouldn't have started that BCom......[/regret]

06-21-2002, 07:54 PM	#69
Sicirus Elf Lord Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: Down the road on your left...No your other left. Posts: 1,825	That is a really true and truthfull quote. __________________ "I know less then half of you half as well as I should like. And I like less then half of you half as well as you deserve." Bilbo Baggins

06-23-2002, 02:34 AM	#70
Cirdan Elf Lord of the Grey Havens Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: somewhere else Posts: 2,381	LIfe is full of regrets. It's how you respond to those feelings of regret that make the difference. Some people let these regrets crush their spirit. Others learn and accept the mistakes and try to avoid them. The quote should really be "That which does not kill us CAN make us stronger." Regrets, I got a mountain of them. I've tried to learn from them all. Some events are just pointless pain that you endure. When you are confident in the knowledge of what you can survive, when a familiar threat or catastrophe occurs, you know, despite the fear, that you are capable of overcoming or withstanding it. Someone once said that the key to happiness is a poor memory. To some degree that is true, but you must learn from the bad decisions, accpept that the past is the past, and live in the moment. Too much baggage can ruin any trip. I was asked recently if I was afraid of the surgery I'm having soon. I said no, and the response was, "well, there are benifits to growing older." The implication is that, having survived the "slings and aroows of outrageous fortune" this long, then "once more, to the breech" is not an overwhelming feeling and I can deal with the issues in a less desparate and irrational way. __________________ There exists a limit to the force even ther most powerful may apply without destroying themselves. Judging this limit is the true artistry of government. Misuse of power is the fatal sin. The law cannot be a tool of vengance, never a hostage, nor a fortification against the martyrs it has created. You cannot threaten any individual and escape the consequences. -Muad'dib on Law The Stilgar Commentary

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