What constitutes infidelity to you?

afro-elf · 10-04-2003, 11:21 PM

Is it strickly coitus?

Or going to a strip club ( male or female)?

Flirting?

Lizra · 10-05-2003, 08:39 AM

Sex..you're dead meat, history. Strip club...well, dog house with scathing looks for a good three days. (If going to the strip club was your idea, there's a BIG problem.

If you were dragged there unwillingly, perhaps there's some room to talk!

) Flirting....big, ugly, hairy fight, you lose.

All of those are "sorts" of infidelity to me. I have high standards for the man in my life. ( and I hold to those high standards myself)

Define flirting anyway! What exactly do you mean?

I will tolerate "reflex flirting". This type of uncontrollable flirting is sometimes unavoidable. I am a natural flirt (lightweight, meaningless stuff) so I simply avoid situations where I am alone with other men....socially. After being a harcore, successful (

) player for so many years, well, it's a reflex!

Of course...if you are inclined to do serious flirting with other women, on MY time, please do it, and do it soon...so I can quit wasting my precious time on you.

Artanis · 10-05-2003, 11:11 AM

Sex - of course, but I would also characterise emotional involvement with another person behind my back as infidelity. Strip club visits are harmless. Flirting is just for fun and keeps us both on our toes.

Elenka · 10-05-2003, 01:42 PM

Ok, what'd you do?

Sween · 10-05-2003, 01:56 PM

Is flirting ever harmless? I dont mind Vita flirting with people as a rule i just dont like it when she talks to some men because some of these men i would not rust as far as i could throw them. But i trust her so it isnt too much of an issue.

Strip club? That aint cheating of infedility, thats good quality entertainment

***Jonathan*** · 10-05-2003, 02:45 PM

Recently a newspaper had a big online poll about infidelity with over 20,000 participants.

One of the questions was "what kind of infidelity would make you leave your partner?". A lot of things were listed, like cyber sex and flirting with a colleague or friend.

The results of the poll showed that 45% of the men and 62% of the women (Swedes of the age 36-35) didn't accept any kind of infidelity. Does that mean they would they leave their partner because of the 'smallest kind' of infidelity?

Another question was "what kind of infidelity would /not/ make you leave your partner?".
To this question, 40% of the men and 57% of the women answered the same thing as to the first question, i.e. they don't accept any kind of infidelity. Flirting via SMS was one of the options that you could pick. So together with all other imaginable kinds of infidelity, this is a reason for leaving your partner?

I think that the poll questions were very vague. To not accept any kind of infidelity is one thing. To /leave/ your partner because of infidelity is another.
I believe the poll results are quite misleading.

In case you can read Swedish, you can read the poll results or even take part in it here at Aftonbladet

afro-elf · 10-05-2003, 08:02 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Elenka
Ok, what'd you do?

Nothing, it had been awhile since I started a thread that's all.

jerseydevil · 10-06-2003, 11:00 AM

I wouldn't consider a strip club to be infidelity. I would consider infidelity more physical contact - or flirting where you are actually "looking for some action". Cybering can be infidelity.

Afro Elf - what do you consider infidelity? You asked the question and then don't answer.

johnnyrod · 10-10-2003, 07:11 PM

Damn, if i get done for flirting then my missus will kick my arse from here to Ya Ya. Is it like murder, where intent gets you into trouble? But seriously, is it more like window shoppping, where it's okay as long as you don't buy anything?

Artanis · 10-11-2003, 03:24 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by johnnyrod
But seriously, is it more like window shoppping, where it's okay as long as you don't buy anything?

Yep, or like whetting your appetite before you go home and eat.

Sween · 10-11-2003, 08:05 AM

I think what i really consider cheating is acting upon it. I mean its ok to fancy another person or be attracted to them. Hell ill admit i fancy lots of people im attracted to a lot of people and i sure as hell dont believe that there isnt plenty of people out there that we can be in love with. I mean honestally how many people do we come into contact with in our lives? A very small percentages of whats out there. I mean im from a small town so i dont know that many people. But the people i do know i know well.

Been in a realtionship really isnt a natral state for a human to be in! Well not a maole at any rate

! We are ment to by design want to spread our seed a little! But when you enter into a realtion ship its more for security and to raise a family which i think you cannot put into words what that means but you just do

10-04-2003, 11:21 PM	#1
afro-elf Hoplite Nomad Join Date: Sep 2001 Posts: 3,931	What constitutes infidelity to you? Is it strickly coitus? Or going to a strip club ( male or female)? Flirting? __________________ About Eowyn, Does anyone know what her alias Dernhelm means? She was kown as dernhelm because of her exclaimation when she realized that the rider's headgear was heavy and obscured her sight. 'Dern Helm" Culled from Entmoot From Kirinski 57 and Wayfarer.

10-05-2003, 08:39 AM	#2
Lizra Domesticated Swing Babe Join Date: May 2002 Location: Reality Posts: 5,340	Sex..you're dead meat, history. Strip club...well, dog house with scathing looks for a good three days. (If going to the strip club was your idea, there's a BIG problem. If you were dragged there unwillingly, perhaps there's some room to talk! ) Flirting....big, ugly, hairy fight, you lose. All of those are "sorts" of infidelity to me. I have high standards for the man in my life. ( and I hold to those high standards myself) Define flirting anyway! What exactly do you mean? I will tolerate "reflex flirting". This type of uncontrollable flirting is sometimes unavoidable. I am a natural flirt (lightweight, meaningless stuff) so I simply avoid situations where I am alone with other men....socially. After being a harcore, successful ( ) player for so many years, well, it's a reflex! Of course...if you are inclined to do serious flirting with other women, on MY time, please do it, and do it soon...so I can quit wasting my precious time on you. __________________ Happy Atheist Go Democrats!

10-05-2003, 11:11 AM	#3
Artanis Greatest Elven woman of Aman Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: Having way too much fun with Fëanor's 7 Posts: 4,285	Sex - of course, but I would also characterise emotional involvement with another person behind my back as infidelity. Strip club visits are harmless. Flirting is just for fun and keeps us both on our toes. __________________ --Life is hard, and then we die.

10-05-2003, 01:42 PM	#4
Elenka The Negative Soul of Entmoot Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: The Middle Distance Posts: 651	Ok, what'd you do? __________________ W00T for the M00T!! War doesn't determine who is right - war determines who is left.

10-05-2003, 01:56 PM	#5
Sween im quite stupid Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Cockermouth Posts: 2,058	Is flirting ever harmless? I dont mind Vita flirting with people as a rule i just dont like it when she talks to some men because some of these men i would not rust as far as i could throw them. But i trust her so it isnt too much of an issue. Strip club? That aint cheating of infedility, thats good quality entertainment __________________ Yeah god hes ok but i would rather be judged by a sheep than that idiot

10-05-2003, 02:45 PM	#6
*Jonathan* Entmoot Attorney-General, Equilibrating the Scales of Justice, Administrator ♎ Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: Stockholm, Sweden Posts: 3,891	Recently a newspaper had a big online poll about infidelity with over 20,000 participants. One of the questions was "what kind of infidelity would make you leave your partner?". A lot of things were listed, like cyber sex and flirting with a colleague or friend. The results of the poll showed that 45% of the men and 62% of the women (Swedes of the age 36-35) didn't accept any kind of infidelity. Does that mean they would they leave their partner because of the 'smallest kind' of infidelity? Another question was "what kind of infidelity would /not/ make you leave your partner?". To this question, 40% of the men and 57% of the women answered the same thing as to the first question, i.e. they don't accept any kind of infidelity. Flirting via SMS was one of the options that you could pick. So together with all other imaginable kinds of infidelity, this is a reason for leaving your partner? I think that the poll questions were very vague. To not accept any kind of infidelity is one thing. To /leave/ your partner because of infidelity is another. I believe the poll results are quite misleading. In case you can read Swedish, you can read the poll results or even take part in it here at Aftonbladet __________________ An unwritten post is a delightful universe of infinite possibilities. Set down one word, however, and it immediately becomes earthbound. Set down one sentence and it’s halfway to being just like every other bloody entry that’s ever been written. ☻

10-06-2003, 11:00 AM	#8
jerseydevil I am Freddie/UNDERCOVER/ Founder of The Great Continent of Entmoot Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Plainsboro, NJ Posts: 9,431	I wouldn't consider a strip club to be infidelity. I would consider infidelity more physical contact - or flirting where you are actually "looking for some action". Cybering can be infidelity. Afro Elf - what do you consider infidelity? You asked the question and then don't answer. __________________ Come back! Come back! To Mordor we will take you! "The only thing better than a great plan is implementing a great plan" - JerseyDevil "If everyone agreed with me all the time, everything would be just fine"- JerseyDevil AboutNewJersey.com New Jersey MessageBoard Another Tolkien Forum Memorial to the Twin Towers New Jersey Map Fellowship of the Messageboard Legend of the Jersey Devil Support New Jersey's Liberty Tower Peacefire.org AboutNewJersey.com - New Jersey Travel and Tourism Guide

10-10-2003, 07:11 PM	#9
johnnyrod Elven Warrior Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Scunthorpe, UK Posts: 166	Damn, if i get done for flirting then my missus will kick my arse from here to Ya Ya. Is it like murder, where intent gets you into trouble? But seriously, is it more like window shoppping, where it's okay as long as you don't buy anything? __________________ Frodo Lives!

10-11-2003, 08:05 AM	#11
Sween im quite stupid Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Cockermouth Posts: 2,058	I think what i really consider cheating is acting upon it. I mean its ok to fancy another person or be attracted to them. Hell ill admit i fancy lots of people im attracted to a lot of people and i sure as hell dont believe that there isnt plenty of people out there that we can be in love with. I mean honestally how many people do we come into contact with in our lives? A very small percentages of whats out there. I mean im from a small town so i dont know that many people. But the people i do know i know well. Been in a realtionship really isnt a natral state for a human to be in! Well not a maole at any rate ! We are ment to by design want to spread our seed a little! But when you enter into a realtion ship its more for security and to raise a family which i think you cannot put into words what that means but you just do __________________ Yeah god hes ok but i would rather be judged by a sheep than that idiot

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