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02-26-2003, 10:25 AM | #21 |
FloraAzul
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Sorry Gwaimar. Okay let me say it this way.
Most guys I know are immature and a lot of guys who are older than me act immature. (But then girls can be too. Excuse me for offending you )
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02-26-2003, 06:23 PM | #22 | ||
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And just one more note to the Christian girls here - please just take one more look at the mirror before you leave the house and ask yourself if what you are wearing will make it reallly hard for a guy to keep his thoughts pure. I am BY NO MEANS asking you to wear burlap sacks!!!! I think God made women really beautiful, and it's good to enjoy that beauty, but Christian girls should also consider other people in the way that they dress, and it would probably be kind to the guys that are trying hard to be pure to just wear things a little less tight and a little less short/revealing. Sex is a fabulous gift, but only in the context of a committed marriage, as God designed it, for the good of everyone involved, and it's easier for both sides to keep pure if they watch what they wear. Quote:
And just in general - I think the most important thing is to decide ahead of time what your particular boundaries will be - and then STICK TO THEM! If you are in a place where you're tempted to pass those boundaries - DON'T! Have some exit lines thought up ahead of time and USE them! And please make one of your boundaries be to NOT decide anything about boundaries in a passionate moment! God gave me the grace to wait until marriage, and I can say I'm SO glad I did!!!!! And I encourage you guys to wait, also. ** end motherly lecture **
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. I should be doing the laundry, but this is MUCH more fun! Ñá ë?* óú éä ïöü Öñ É Þ ð ß ® ç Ã¥ â„¢ æ ♪ ?* "How lovely are Thy dwelling places, O Lord of hosts! ... For a day in Thy courts is better than a thousand outside." (from Psalm 84) * * * God rocks! Entmoot : Veni, vidi, velcro - I came, I saw, I got hooked! Ego numquam pronunciare mendacium, sed ego sum homo indomitus! Run the earth and watch the sky ... Auta i lómë! Aurë entuluva! Last edited by RÃan : 02-26-2003 at 06:24 PM. |
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02-26-2003, 07:02 PM | #23 |
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as I stated, I know some girls are immature. And I was kidding.
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02-26-2003, 08:52 PM | #24 |
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Yes, I did see that you said some girls are immature, and I'm glad you can see that. We all have plenty of growing to do, don't we?
I just wanted to point out that you can't judge a guy's maturity on a girl's standard, IMO, because I think that that is a common mistake that many people make, and that guys and girls mature in different ways.
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. I should be doing the laundry, but this is MUCH more fun! Ñá ë?* óú éä ïöü Öñ É Þ ð ß ® ç Ã¥ â„¢ æ ♪ ?* "How lovely are Thy dwelling places, O Lord of hosts! ... For a day in Thy courts is better than a thousand outside." (from Psalm 84) * * * God rocks! Entmoot : Veni, vidi, velcro - I came, I saw, I got hooked! Ego numquam pronunciare mendacium, sed ego sum homo indomitus! Run the earth and watch the sky ... Auta i lómë! Aurë entuluva! |
02-26-2003, 09:37 PM | #25 | |
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It seems that I have discovered the "virginity thread"
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Is this a cultural/age thing I'm getting confused with here? In the UK a date is going out and doing something with a girl/boy who you enjoy spending time with.....when I was a lad, many moons ago, someone who wanted a shag within' a couple of dates was just loose.......she/he got the cold shoulder straight away. But dating was fun! I loved it! Wish I was young enough to go through it all again....... Yeesh, I spent my virginity when I was 13 (yes virginity is just like a coin, you don't have to lose it, you can decide when and where you spend it, make sure ya get ya money's worth ) I've known 18 women and had serious relationships with four of them.......and, heck, it's been a blast! Does that make me impure?.......probably in some eyes. Does that make me irresponsible?.....nope, I've never ended a relationship under a bad cloud, never had a disease and have no illegitimate children. Do I regret my teenage years?.....definitely not! I had hundreds of dates, some mad, some bad, some were incredible fun! Folks, the choice is your's (obviously) date, or not. But IMO your all missing out on some great occasions/opportunities.......and IMO very formative ones at that! |
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02-26-2003, 09:54 PM | #26 |
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Whoa RÃ*an is serious!
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02-26-2003, 09:56 PM | #27 | |
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. I should be doing the laundry, but this is MUCH more fun! Ñá ë?* óú éä ïöü Öñ É Þ ð ß ® ç Ã¥ â„¢ æ ♪ ?* "How lovely are Thy dwelling places, O Lord of hosts! ... For a day in Thy courts is better than a thousand outside." (from Psalm 84) * * * God rocks! Entmoot : Veni, vidi, velcro - I came, I saw, I got hooked! Ego numquam pronunciare mendacium, sed ego sum homo indomitus! Run the earth and watch the sky ... Auta i lómë! Aurë entuluva! |
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02-26-2003, 10:08 PM | #28 | |
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But I do think there is something wrong with someone not dating at all. (ok is this a misunderstanding on my part, because when I was dating a date was a social event between two people, not a promise of sex). I gave examples from my personal life because I wanted to illustrate that just because some people wish to wait until they are married (which is fair enough) does not necessarily mean that people who do not wish to wait makes them wrong, as long as they go about it in a responsible manner. |
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02-26-2003, 11:29 PM | #29 | ||
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I was reacting to the first line, which was 'It seems that I have discovered the "virginity thread" ' with the rolling-eye smilie. That seemed to me like you were 'looking down' on those that choose to save their virginity for their wedding night. But in your last paragraph, you say waiting until your wedding night is 'fair enough', so I guess I misunderstood you. Sorry!
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I'm glad that you do everything you can to be responsible, though, and you know I like you , but this is just an area where a Christian and a non-Christian will disagree, because Christians go by what the Bible says, and non-Christians don't (which certainly makes sense for them - why should they go by the Bible if they don't believe it to be God's word?)
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. I should be doing the laundry, but this is MUCH more fun! Ñá ë?* óú éä ïöü Öñ É Þ ð ß ® ç Ã¥ â„¢ æ ♪ ?* "How lovely are Thy dwelling places, O Lord of hosts! ... For a day in Thy courts is better than a thousand outside." (from Psalm 84) * * * God rocks! Entmoot : Veni, vidi, velcro - I came, I saw, I got hooked! Ego numquam pronunciare mendacium, sed ego sum homo indomitus! Run the earth and watch the sky ... Auta i lómë! Aurë entuluva! |
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02-27-2003, 02:30 AM | #30 | |
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I also don't like male-bashing (I'm not saying you were doing this, Aralyn, but your comment reminded me of the subject), which is currently rather popular in society, since I am very fond of many males (and Coney is one of them, whether he likes it or not! ), and I'm married to one of the best of the whole species! I think a world with just males or just females would be really awful (but that's just MHO - anyone else agree?)
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. I should be doing the laundry, but this is MUCH more fun! Ñá ë?* óú éä ïöü Öñ É Þ ð ß ® ç Ã¥ â„¢ æ ♪ ?* "How lovely are Thy dwelling places, O Lord of hosts! ... For a day in Thy courts is better than a thousand outside." (from Psalm 84) * * * God rocks! Entmoot : Veni, vidi, velcro - I came, I saw, I got hooked! Ego numquam pronunciare mendacium, sed ego sum homo indomitus! Run the earth and watch the sky ... Auta i lómë! Aurë entuluva! Last edited by RÃan : 02-27-2003 at 02:53 AM. |
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02-27-2003, 08:17 AM | #31 |
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As I was reading through this thread, something struck me as very odd - most of the posts were made by young girls in their early teens, who have now sworn off dating 'cos of what they had read in some book. Also, it seems that they are all confusing dating with sex - not the same thing at all!
I have been on a lot of dates since I was about 15, this does not mean that I slept with the first bugger to cross my doorstep (as a matter of fact I only bid my virginity fairwell on 13 August 1997 - 4 days before my 19th birthday and between my first date & that night there were a lot of dates with a lot of different guys). Dating has always been a lot of fun - you get to go out with someone who is in the very least a friend and share a wonderful experience. Besides, you get to dress up (or down) and have someone else pay for your movie ticket (unless you decide to split the cost) BTW - if you don't date, how on earth are you ever going to meet Mr / Miss Right?
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02-27-2003, 08:29 AM | #32 | |
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If it wasn't for the ladies of this world most of us men would either- Be in prison. Be alcoholics. Have all the social graces of your average redneck And we'd look like Grizzly Adams on a "bad hair" day! (Not to mention that there would be so much testosterone flying about that we'd murder each other anyway). Love may make the world go aroung but sex is definitly the *ahem* lubrication. It's just a shame that so many of the young 'uns in this thread associate dating and sex so closely |
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02-27-2003, 08:33 AM | #33 | |
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BTW you were quite right about sff
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02-27-2003, 01:15 PM | #34 |
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Yeah, I don't think I agree with the 'no dating' idea, just the idea that you should make your boundaries ahead of time and stick to them, despite what you may think in less intellectual moments! I should probably read the book to see how they define 'dating'. My first reaction is that they've probably gone a bit overboard, but for some people, that might be what they need.
I dated quite a few guys before I got married, and if any guy tried to go farther than I wanted him to, I just asked him nicely not to (but in a way that he knew I meant it - don't confuse the poor guy by making it hard for him to decide if you really mean it or not ) - it was that simple. This is just a matter of respect - your respect for yourself, and his for you, IMO. (BTW - this also means that you need to use common sense, and not go out into the middle of nowhere on a first date with someone you don't know well, where if you say 'no' to him you don't really have much choice if he decides to not respect your 'no'). The guys that I needed to say 'no' to I ended up not going out with for long, anyway. Personally, I think dating is a good way to spend time with someone and have fun together and learn more about relationships and see if that person is right for you. I dated one guy for a year that I thought at first I would marry, but as we got closer, I saw things that I knew would drive me crazy and would be awful to have in a marriage partner (although he was a very nice guy, he simply could not make decisions on his own convictions). I have good memories of my dating days, and I think they helped me make a good decision about who I married. I did take dating seriously, though, as far as consideration for each other (not allowing my limits to be passed, and when we did break up, doing it with all possible kindness and consideration and respect for the other person). Perhaps the main emphasis on the book is to be careful of the physical aspect; is it? Being close physically can blind you to other aspects of a person's character, because physical attraction and pleasure is so strong. The guy I thought I was going to marry and I went fairly quickly into a close physical relationship, and I think this probably closed my eyes to his inability to make decisions and some other things about his character that were incompatible with mine, and we ended up dating longer than I think we would have otherwise, and it was the most difficult break-up I had.
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. I should be doing the laundry, but this is MUCH more fun! Ñá ë?* óú éä ïöü Öñ É Þ ð ß ® ç Ã¥ â„¢ æ ♪ ?* "How lovely are Thy dwelling places, O Lord of hosts! ... For a day in Thy courts is better than a thousand outside." (from Psalm 84) * * * God rocks! Entmoot : Veni, vidi, velcro - I came, I saw, I got hooked! Ego numquam pronunciare mendacium, sed ego sum homo indomitus! Run the earth and watch the sky ... Auta i lómë! Aurë entuluva! |
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. I should be doing the laundry, but this is MUCH more fun! Ñá ë?* óú éä ïöü Öñ É Þ ð ß ® ç Ã¥ â„¢ æ ♪ ?* "How lovely are Thy dwelling places, O Lord of hosts! ... For a day in Thy courts is better than a thousand outside." (from Psalm 84) * * * God rocks! Entmoot : Veni, vidi, velcro - I came, I saw, I got hooked! Ego numquam pronunciare mendacium, sed ego sum homo indomitus! Run the earth and watch the sky ... Auta i lómë! Aurë entuluva! |
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At the moment my hair is it's normal dark brown/black.....and it's about a half inch long The last peroxide kinda "killed" my hair, it started snapping.....so it was out with the razor, shaved the lot off and let it grow natural for a while. Quote:
Ach well, all part of the great learning curve that is life I suppose |
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*imagines Coney's hair snapping* Hair #24,125 - "No! No! I just can't take it anymore! Aaahhh!" Hair #1,055 - "Aaack! Neither can I - it's just too much pressure! He can't expect me to deal with all this peroxide anymore!" Hair #658 - "Oh no, it's ....... the RAZOR!!! Aiiiieeee......" *ok so that was dumb....*
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. I should be doing the laundry, but this is MUCH more fun! Ñá ë?* óú éä ïöü Öñ É Þ ð ß ® ç Ã¥ â„¢ æ ♪ ?* "How lovely are Thy dwelling places, O Lord of hosts! ... For a day in Thy courts is better than a thousand outside." (from Psalm 84) * * * God rocks! Entmoot : Veni, vidi, velcro - I came, I saw, I got hooked! Ego numquam pronunciare mendacium, sed ego sum homo indomitus! Run the earth and watch the sky ... Auta i lómë! Aurë entuluva! Last edited by RÃan : 02-27-2003 at 05:15 PM. |
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After having my hair all natural for a while, I finally decided to colour it again, so now it's a really beatiful red. Wonder how I would look with blonde hair.............. Back to topic: Quote:
Also when friends set you up on a blind date, try suggesting that you all go in a group, or meet him in a public place. Ach - I make it sound like hard work to have fun. Just remember that you can go on as many dates as you like with different people and have fun.
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02-28-2003, 04:20 AM | #39 |
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Ahhh, dating. If only I could have. I was just too stupid. I dated them all in my head, cuz I didn't know how to really ask them out on a date with words. They were always really friendly, though, funny thing. Anyway. Ugh, that was torture, but it was good. I'd just hate to have to do it again. Once I realized that girls might actually like me and not be insane, I dated only two of them before I married one of them (the last one). And I saw that it was very good. I'm not going to tell my kids not to date when the time comes. I hope I can help them to date well, if such a thing still be possible. My sister read that book, was duly impressed, and then eventually dated a bunch of guys. I guess she became duly unimpressed with it (the book). Nothing horrible about her going and dating either. She met some guys, really great ones, some of them wanted to marry her and she found she didn't want to marry them, thanks to dating them. So she didn't and she's still single, and keeping her eyes open. Sounds fine to me.
...deep thoughts, eh? Ha ha ha ha!
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02-28-2003, 01:35 PM | #40 | ||
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And I agree, Baby-K - the 'ol "but she was dressing really sexy and so she was asking for it" excuse is a bunch of bull!! Rape is rape, and should be prosecuted. My point (which you got, but I'll reiterate) is to use common sense to do everything you can to avoid getting into a dangerous situation. And also, I think it IS considerate to guys to dress more modestly in public (as well as more respectful of yourself), but that's just MHO
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