marriage

[Rían]

you're welcome, katya m'dear!

Yes, I wanted to be married when I was little - and I've been married now for almost 20 years to a great guy! Not to say it's easy all the time - in fact, last night we had a big disagreement - but it's SOOOO worth it, and the good times FAR outweigh the bad It's a lot of work, but the results are WELL worth it! It's one of the best things I've ever done in my entire life But choose your husband carefully character is what's important!

People will disagree, no matter WHO they are - it's just a fact of life - what matters is HOW you conduct the disagreement. We try to always conduct disagreements very carefully and with great honor to the other person, realizing that many disagreements are often just simple misunderstandings from imperfect communication, and it's better to hold back angry words than to apologize for them later when the damage has been done.

I think being a "good wife" is an honorable goal, and I really resented Teresa Heinz Kerry's slurs against Laura Bush. How is it wrong to want something like a traditional marriage? What's wrong with you wanting a traditional family structure? Why would it be sexist?

It reminds me of people who object to the Christian concept of "submission" of the wife to the husband in marriage, when they really have no idea of what it means, or are even aware of the much HARDER command to the husband to love his wife like Christ loves the church. They'll say things like, "You shouldn't submit to your husband! You should think for yourself!" And to them I respond, "You tell me to think for myself, yet you tell me to do what YOU think is right?! How is that thinking for myself?! I've THOUGHT for myself, thank you, and I think the Christian concept of submission (as opposed to what some non-Christians think it is) is an excellent one. So please don't tell me what to do - I refuse to submit to your opinion."

Christian submission in marriage doesn't mean not thinking for yourself, nor does it mean brainless obedience. I should open a thread on that subject, it's an interesting one!

Anyway, I say good for you, katya! It's a beautiful and honorable thing, IMO, for a girl to desire marriage and being a good wife.